Don’t let others Negotiate your Marriage

My husband and I have been married for two blissful years.

Within our years of matrimony, we are learning that outside sources can belittle your bliss. Those sources can also tense your bond, and cause your marriage braid to fray.

Do NOT let that happen! Put up blockades and set boundaries to stop traffic of tension within your romantic realm.

Outside sources that negotiate your marriage:

Immediate family that negotiates the peace treaty within your marriage and causes chaos.
Friends that cling to you or your spouse, negotiating unwanted attention.
Activities or groups that negotiate the quality time spent with your spouse.
Sinful acts that splutter red ink upon the sanctity of the marriage contract.

Foreign frivolities can dampen the treaty of your marriage that you have negotiated with your husband or wife. Outside sources can wet the paper and tear at your hearts causing arguments.

Do NOT let that happen!

Distance yourself from family (but pray for them) that slyly signs your marriage treaty with stress.
Set up orange cones, setting barriers against bludgeoning outsiders of discord.
Always make your husband or wife a priority over negotiations of busyness.
Flee temptation and do not sign the “sin treaty”.

Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate." Mark 10:9

As a married couple you have negotiated a peaceful treaty of marriage, do not let others or things, coarse that constitution.

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